I hate when this happens. I know setbacks are normal for all of us, but do you ever feel like you take two steps forward then 5 steps back?
Days or weeks go by and your in your flow and feeling great, and then suddenly your back at the bottom. But not the very bottom. You know you’ve still made progress, but you might just lose your mind and give all the way up.
It’s so frustrating when you work so hard to be better, every single day. Although it is humbling to fail, it’s hard to see the good when your in the midst of your failure.
So many days in my life I feel like I’m on trial. Like I’m constantly being tested. I work to be more patient. I work to be more kind, more understanding, and to not judge others. I’m a small part of a big picture and I just want to do my part in serving the world the best that I can. But that can feel so daunting when you stop believing in yourself. When you feel like you can’t do it. Even the simple stuff.
I know the optimistic part of me would say, “Liz, this is the only way you will grow.” It’s the Universe’s way of trying to show me what I’m really made of. It makes you ask yourself how bad do you want this? You start to wonder if this is all actually worth it.
And that’s where your determination and your ultimate vision should come into play. Your end goal. Your underlying reason for what keeps you going. I hate to say this but I often lose sight of mine, and even times I feel like I may not even have one at all. This is completely untrue and I know that, but I still have those thoughts.
It takes time to get back to the other side. The mind frame when you’re focused, when you’re driven, and when you can just get out of your own way. Not saying it becomes easy but it absolutely becomes easier. There’s less anxiety, less stress, and more time to focus on the good things in your future. Typically, I can eventually sort through most my doubt and trust that I will come out stronger on the other end.
Yet the place where I truly feel “stuck” is not because of my anxiety, my negative self-talk, or even from a specific failure. It’s really just the fact that I keep experiencing this same shitty feeling over and over and over again. Just when I think I pushed past, there it is again. It’s just taken a new form. That is discouraging for anybody. The ups and downs can sometimes be what damages our confidence, making it even more difficult to get back on track.
The key is to try our best not to dwell, because this just creates more of the same. Take the time to reset your brain and your body. Get away from that shitty feeling. For me, it can feel almost impossible to get out of my own head. But I’m always learning new ways to do so. Know that what works for some may not work for you. Also remember, for some fucked up reason our brains are so programmed to resist change and to seek immediate comfort. Especially when we feel vulnerable. This is what makes being human so difficult. We’re capable of so many incredible things, we just need to push past our pain period. If you keep meeting resistance in your life, and it keeps showing up the same way, just know that you have not yet learned the lesson you need to. And that is okay. We’re not supposed to know exactly the right thing to do in each and every situation. Life is all about learning, and even more importantly learning to let go.